On online dating
For those who don't like online dating
Online dating is almost as old as the Internet itself. The first dating website, kiss.com, launched in 1994, only about a year after the Internet went public. Match.com, a very famous dating website you might have heard of, has been around since 1995. Naturally, I was against online dating for a very, very, very long time. Then, I joined Tinder, met my now-husband on the app, and the rest, as they say, is history.
Below is five ideas I thought were worth sharing this week:
In this week’s blog post, I wrote about my experience dating online strategically and successfully after dismissing it for many years out of fear of dealing with all the negative stories I heard from friends, acquaintances, and on the Internet. Online dating for those who don’t like online dating is about using the digital world as a tool to enrich our lives, not diminish it.
I cannot recommend this book enough: All about love: A new vision by bell hooks. It is the exploration of love in all its form, inspiring us to be caring, compassionate, and loving in all areas of life. Love is necessary work and it is in love that we learn to resist and thrive under many circumstances. Here’s a free PDF version.
I watched how I hacked online dating by Amy Webb. Having no luck with online dating apps, and eager to find a husband, Amy turned to data and algorithm to hack her online dating life to find her Prince Charming— with frustrating, funny and life-changing results.
A quote I want to share: “I do not trust people who don't love themselves and yet tell me, 'I love you.' There is an African saying which is: Be careful when a naked person offers you a shirt” by Maya Angelou. Self-love is just as good and as important as love from others.
Ready to jump into the world of online dating apps? Here's the best place to start. Best dating apps of 2021.
P.s. If you would like to learn more, share your challenges, and get personalized advice on successfully dating online during a pandemic, I’m co-hosting a special Valentine’s Day workshop this Sunday, February 14 at 1:00PM EST. Dating in Captivity: Online Romance & Emotional Well-being in the Time of COVID with Christina Malecka, a Licensed Mental Health Counsellor with over 25 years of experience with change-making, group facilitation, training and workshop development. Tickets are $30.
That’s all for this week!
Happy Valentine’s Day. Wishing you more love every day.
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